So last Saturday Jim and I went with his parents and sister to his cousin Joanne's wedding. It was not very traditional as far as the reception goes. I think the goal was to have fun no matter what but a lot of it came off as a little obnoxious and rude.
The ceremony itself was nice. PJ wore a lei because his dad's side of the family is Hawaiian. I thought that was nice. I love all of that traditional stuff! The guys wore chucks with their tuxes. I wouldn't have gone for doing that but it didn't bother me. It was fun.
The ceremony was at 5:00. We didn't leave the church until 7:30. The reception was at 8:00. We didn't eat dinner until 9:00. That is all to just give you a timeline! Anyway, so the reception was at the World Cafe Live. It is a music venue at Penn and is set up for live music, not weddings. We got there and hung around chatting during the cocktail hour. There were not nearly enough appetizers going around. At the appetizer table there was only vegetables, cheese, and crackers. No hot stuff! I always look forward to the appetizers at weddings so I was a little disappointed.
Jim, MaryKate, and I were walking around looking for our table and it was nowhere to be found. It ended up being on the second floor balcony. On the first floor there were 13 rectangular tables that sat 10 people. On the stage was the bridal party and guests. That sat 30. Where we were sitting there was two tables that sat 20. Jim was complaining because all of the "married" cousins were on the first floor. We were the only ones upstairs. Well all of the other married cousins are in their 40's so the idea was for us to sit with the other cousins that were our age. Well because of the table situation Jim, MaryKate, a cousin's daughter, and I all sat at one end and the rest of the cousins were at the other end. Not that they are a close family anyway but it would have been nice to sit with people we knew!
So after the bridal party was called out the buffets opened. There was no order to anything. It was a total free for all! So we got our food and headed upstairs. While we were getting our food and heading upstairs the best man and two maids of honor were giving their speeches. The one girl asked for silence but you can't expect people to be quiet once they are trying to get their food and eat already! Anyway, the speeches were nice. Then the groom's parents, who are opera singers, stood up and each sang a song for the bride and groom. I found that so ignorant and if I was the bride I would have been pissed that they were stealing my thunder like that! They were standing directly in front of the bride and groom. The were just up there to preform. That is all! They were nice singers but it was just totally inappropriate.
Now cut back to the getting the food and speeches ect. My father-in-law was trying to be polite and not eat during the speeches, well when you are not eating dinner until 9:30 you get pretty hungry! So in between people speaking and singing he would try to eat a little bit. Well he started to choke. Went to the bathroom, came back, tried to take a sip of water, choked again, went to the bathroom, Jim checked on him, he came out and said he was going to sit in the car until the wedding was over. He was in that much pain! Well we didn't stick around much later than that. We ended up leaving around 11:00. It was later than we intended because of the situation but Jim's uncle, the father of the bride, caught us so we had to chat to him for a bit.
The best part of the night was the mummers. They hired part of the South Philadelphia string band to come and play for a bit. There was in no way shape or form enough room for the 230 (guesstimate) guests to dance along with the mummers. I had a fine time sitting on a couch in the balcony and just watching.
Here are the mummers and the bridal party coming down to dance!
They did not do all of the dances until about 11:00 when we were getting ready to leave. Here is a picture of Joanne and PJ dancing.
Joanne and PJ
I actually really like this picture a lot. I think it looks really cool! Then the father/daughter and mother/son dances came. The father/daughter dance was nice. The mother/son dance looked like they had eaten way to many pixie sticks! It was crazy! But to draw upon my original observation they were just out to have fun and not worry about tradition! To each their own. PJ is in a band and he sang a song that he wrote for Joanne. I wish we had seen that. I think that was super sweet!
All in all, I think that if we had been there with another crowd we would have had a lot more fun but since it was not a crowd that we normally are around that is why we didn't really do much.
One more set wedding is coming up on June 20th, the day before our first anniversary! I can't wait for that one. It is the wedding of my only friend from grade school.
PS- 7 more days until the summer!!!